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Ten Days to Solid Goals – Day 3

February 28th, 2011 No comments

Barbed Wire

What are limiting beliefs?

 

We all have beliefs about the world and the way it works.  Our experiences in life have established deep-seated notions in each of us about what is, or is not, possible; what we are, or are not, capable of doing.

Can you think of some beliefs you have from your own childhood?

Some of these ideas may be valid; some may be wildly off the mark, having perhaps been inherited from a family member or picked up through a case of burnt fingers before we were old enough to examine them objectively.  Either way, our beliefs can affect our decisions profoundly, whether or not we realize it.

 

Why should we care about limiting beliefs?

 

As we home in on what it is we really want, our beliefs may cause resistance to the goal that we would like to set.  It’s time now to get rid of those limiting beliefs!

Let’s pick an example to clarify all this.  Suppose you have a goal of learning to tango.  Now, if you’re a natural dancer, this goal will probably excite you and energize you into action.  You will anticipate your weekly dance class and eagerly review the previous lessons in your mind during the week.

But suppose you are someone who isn’t very active, and that furthermore you have a long-standing belief that you are uncoordinated.  Imagine how this belief will impact your progress in trying to learn to tango!

Now if this is a very old belief, perhaps from grade school, you might consider yourself uncoordinated, even though you don’t really use the word or allow it into your conscious thought.  If so, despite your goal of learning to tango, you will likely have a tougher time learning to dance.

As a result of this belief, you might feel uncomfortable with the idea of learning to tango, and find that you frequently feel tired on Thursday evenings, perhaps too tired to attend your class.  You have unconsciously sabotaged your own success for a goal you chose for yourself!

In reality, your belief that you are clumsy may be completely unfounded.  If you were able to go to your lesson without this emotional baggage, you could proceed confidently and might soon become an excellent tango dancer.

So, whether or not this example applies to your personal dancing ability, you can probably imagine how the process might work in your own life.

Recognizing this is one of the most important steps in the path to success – understanding that often the thing that holds us back most is just our own idea that we are not likely to succeed

 

Where did these beliefs come from?

 

Once we grasp that our own preconceptions about what we can’t do – our limiting beliefs – are some of our biggest obstacles, we can begin to work on changing those preconceptions so we can move forward.  In this way, accomplishing our concrete goals becomes also a journey of self-discovery, as our secret fears are, one by one, rooted out and dismantled.

At this point you may be wondering about your own limiting beliefs.   Finding them can be tricky, as your mind is probably very good at hiding them from you.  Your mind is quite content in the comfort zone and feels safe there.

But to change your environment, you need to leave your comfort zone. The nice thing about leaving your comfort zone is that it is exciting! Once you start to broaden your horizons, you’ll be stronger than you ever imagined.

Tomorrow we’ll look at how you can identify your limiting beliefs.

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Ten Days to Solid Goals – Day 2

February 27th, 2011 No comments

Bullseye

Why should I define my goal?

 

Plain and simple, if you don’t define your goal, you don’t know in which direction you should be heading. The more you read about goal setting in this website, the more this will become transparent to you.

Do you have a goal in mind that you would like to achieve?  If so, imagine that goal as you read on.

 

The first step in setting an effective goal is deciding exactly what it is you want.

 

You need to clearly define your goal.  If you don’t have such clarity yet, your first goal can be to research and soul-search to get it.

When you have a clear picture of your goal, you are then able to accurately direct your efforts toward its realization.  You are also able to recognize it when it arrives, which is satisfying and helps build momentum toward your next goal.

Be specific! “Land a position doing x work for at least x salary ” is going to be easier to follow through on than “Be rich”.

Have you clarified your goal in your mind? You’ll be surprised how good it feels to solidify your goal mentally.

 

Think about the pros and cons of your goal.

 

Make sure you really want what you are working for.  With every goal comes a price. You have to trade resources, such as time, energy, and money to reach your goal. For example, a four-year degree requires tuition, study, and giving up a hefty chunk of your free time. Yet the benefits can be huge. Prepare yourself mentally for both the positive and negative aspects that you’ll experience and you’ll be more satisfied with the process.

Once you’ve satisfied with the goal, record it so you always think of it in the same way.  You can do this by writing it down on a piece of paper or entering it into the single-step software.

Lots of people write their goals on yellow sticky notes and hang them from their computer screens or refrigerators.  You may have even done this yourself. The key is to keep your goal in your mind. The more you think about your goal, the better your chances of reaching it.

 

Make a list.

 

While you’re at it, why not create a list of goals?  There are probably many areas of your life you would like to change or improve.  Take this opportunity to challenge yourself to describe how you would like your life to be.  You’ll want this list when you read the next pages, so keep it in front of you as you read on.

Having a list of your goals is important, but the real challenge is to remember to review the list frequently.  This will help you keep your goals in mind and reaffirm your commitment to achieving them.  You should take a look at your goals at least once a day to remind you of your objectives. You will see later how single-step can help you by building a daily habit of reviewing your goals.

 

Make sure you can actually reach your goal.

 

When you set a goal, it’s important that your target is actually reachable.  Can you imagine yourself running a marathon?  How about getting straight ‘A’s?  Quitting smoking?

While it’s important that you stretch your horizons, it’s also important that you learn to recognize what you are and are not capable of achieving. While this may seem hard now, once you learn more about limiting beliefs you will feel more comfortable in making this assessment.

Tomorrow we’ll discuss limiting beliefs and what you can do to eliminate them.

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Ten Days to Solid Goals – Day 1

February 26th, 2011 No comments

Bridge to horizon

Do you know what you want from life?

 

What is the first thing that popped into your mind? Can you imagine how you would go about getting it? It may surprise you to learn that the process for reaching ANY goal is usually the same.

Sometimes we reach our goals easily, almost without effort.  More often, they can be maddeningly elusive, teasing us by remaining just out of reach.  If you want to be more consistent and effective in reaching your goals, you need to learn to use the goal-setting process. You’ll be surprised how easy it really is.

Ask yourself now:

 

Do you have a process to help you reach your goals?

 

To be consistently successful, you need to make use of many strategies and concepts that together increase the effectiveness and likelihood of achieving your goal.  Can you imagine pitching a World Series game without practice?  Passing an exam without study?

Of course not.

 

In the end, it is your preparation and discipline that enables you to get to where you want to go.

 

We’re here to help.

We’ve designed single-step to help you set your goals, track your progress, overcome your personal challenges, and succeed.  It only takes a minute to start and because we offer a free trial it makes perfect sense to start today.

If you followed the steps above, you’re already thinking about that special thing that you desire. Once you get started with single-step, you’ll know how to get it.

Tomorrow we’ll talk more about how to define your goals.  In the meantime, try to think about what it is you really want.

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Quote Archive

February 26th, 2011 No comments

Need a million quotes?  Of course not.  You need the right quote for the right moment.  That’s why I love this site.  The organization of their quotes is dead easy to follow, and the quotes are great.

Tiny Budda Quotes

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Is CAPCHA Good for Humanity?

February 25th, 2011 No comments

reCAPCHA is.  Read more here:

How reCAPCHA benefits us all

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Struggling?

February 21st, 2011 No comments

Here are 20 quotes to help you get through.  There’s a brighter day ahead.

20 Quotes for tough times

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The Station

February 14th, 2011 No comments

A nice little passage that basically reminds us to “be here now”.

The Station

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How does music affect your brain?

February 14th, 2011 No comments

Ever wonder why a particular piece of music was so engaging for you?  Here’s a brief article on the neurological response to music.

How does music affect your brain?

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Instantly Improve Your Life

February 13th, 2011 No comments

Ok, admittedly, some of these things aren’t going to to show immediate gains, but it’s still a great list, and you can make the decision to apply them instantly.

Instantly Improve Your Life

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Who is speaking to whom?

February 10th, 2011 No comments

This is a great post to make you think about how you interact with others.  Twenty seconds to read, a lifetime to consider.

Who is speaking to whom?

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