How can we identify limiting beliefs?
Our limiting beliefs, the unquestioned but erroneous assumptions we hold about our own capabilities, are often held far below the level of our everyday awareness. To move ahead, you will need to become aware of your own assumptions and counter them. One clue that you might be holding yourself back in a particular area is the simple fact that you are having trouble making progress.
Think of the goal that you are in the process of setting. Try saying to yourself, specifically, that you have what it takes to achieve it - “I am a fantastic designer”, “I have superior negotiating skills”, “I am irresistible to women”.
You might even want to say it out loud.
What is your subconscious telling you?
What is your immediate mental response to the exercise above?
Does it feel wrong to tell yourself this? Did you think back to yourself, “Don’t be ridiculous, I’m really not very good”? Your hidden assumptions are making themselves known!
Grab onto that resistance and figure out where it's coming from. The single-step software provides a place for you to record these thoughts as they appear to help drive out your beliefs and let you recognize them. As you use the software regularly, you will discover that these thoughts get weaker and weaker.
Where did these beliefs come from?
Try to consider your deep, inner beliefs about the type of goal you are pursuing. Write down every idea you have about it. Getting things in front of you on paper is important.
A few examples might be:
“There is a lot of competition and I can't compete.”
“People in this field are very cutthroat and I don't want to be that way.”
“Women like men with money so I'll never meet anyone.”
“It’s who you know.”
Some of your responses may surprise you once you start writing them down. If you're really interested in challenging yourself try writing them down with your opposite hand and see what comes out. You might be really surprised by the results.
Once you have spent some time identifying your beliefs, examine each one.
Does this make sense?
How did I learn this idea, and from whom?
How does believing in this idea affect me?
Does it help me succeed or does it hinder me, and how?
If your belief is hurting you and your performance, picture in some detail exactly how. Think about the things it has been keeping you from, the pains that it causes you, feelings of discouragement and lost time.
If your belief is deep and long standing, it may be difficult to destroy even once you see it is false. Awareness of the pain it causes can provide you with ammunition to finally challenge this belief.
We'll talk more about limiting beliefs once you've further defined your goals...